Wednesday 16 May 2012

No one can take it till you give it to them

This is quite interesting and specially applicable to some of the toughest challenging questions from our daily life. "How can he do this to me" , "How dare he" , "He does not care for my feelings" etc. And you know what is more tough , answering to these questions as the answers we choose would certainly going to trig lot of emotions (Pain or Happiness). Before talking in detail on this topic let me tell you guys a small story ( some days back narrated by a friend ).

Once A walking race was organized among some mouses to reach to the peak of a mountain , There were four-five mouses.So when they started they were running parallel to each other. After some distance one said "This is really really far".The second one who heard replied "Yeah you are correct , very far" Third one who was listening to this conversation said "Yeah Guys , we are just small mouses with small legs". Hearing this all the fourth one got so disappointed that It stopped immediate and opted to be out of the race. Finally , Only one mouse was able to complete the full and won the first prize.When interviewing him,people came to know It was a deaf one and never listened to anything other mouses were discussing on the way :).

This is a perfect example to understand the effect of the negativity. Just think If the second mouse would have opted his response in a way as not to take any negative effect from the first one,Results might have been different. This is the exact point I want to highlight while saying answering to such questions or situations.

This world is full people who are living with negative illusions that they have so many problems and issues in their lives and seeking a solution they try to dump this pain and negativity to others(Like the daily painful stories coming out on news channels).These days pain has become a connecting point. But this can not lead you to a very healthy and joyful life however by carefully choosing our responses to them , We can easily counter It. What Gandhiji taught the nation during great Satyagrahs of pre-fourtyseven era was to choose your responses carefully against one of the most strict police regime.

Seriously No one can hurt us till we allow them and Its directly controlled by the means of the response we choose to give back.As Gandhiji said If we can smile on a slap Its the biggest victory towards peace of our own mind. Some times our responses are the actual reason of the pain and inner defeats then of the allegation itself.

Suppose someone treats us bad in some manner and we do the same in return then their left no reason to complaint that he or she has done something wrong but if we can opt to behave mature and casual , No one can hurt us at all. Responsibility is a beautiful term guys just use it carefully as Stephen has said Its response ability(ability to choose your responses).

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